Correct Judgement

I've always known a fact, one that has locked on deep inside, one that insists I adhere to it unendingly. It commits me to screen every person the same way I see myself. Ever since I started swerving away from the delusional whims, rules and norms of people, possessing authority or not alike, I found that every single thought process that a 2nd person or 3rd person has, related to me in any subject, is the result of a careless process benchmarked and pitted against their own experiences and lifestyles.

This poses in itself a huge challenge for a person who has since forever, striven to create a favorable public opinion, to become the people's champ. One who fashions himself as an individual may lash out, may stay in his own territory as the king or may cockily brand these hard workers as intellectually stunted.

In spite of such gaping differences between the psyche and with no bridge to co-relate one with the other, I have noticed, judgmental behavior by anyone possessing a rank included within either the "winner's" circle or the "lone" stalwart, can drastically affect a wide range of traits in the victim. To my observation, we all are burdened with only 99% of self-confidence. Judgemental behavior magnifies the residual, and attempts to mock at the majority. And the worst part is, you don't even know that's happening.

We are inclined to judge people as per our experiences, as per our scales of right and wrong, ability and inability. We do so to feed the ego, sometimes by crushing someone else's. Now here's the fun fact, most of us aren't even at fault. Our scales of judgement are a product of our own events, upbringings and environments. The further up a person goes in achieving similar results, not higher nor lower, the better the future bond. The greater a person defies your rules, the bigger jerk he becomes.

This particular trait we carry is the reason why understanding is hampered in the first place. Understanding facts that every person's acts, justifiable or not, arise as a consequence of his past, present and future apprehensions. We forget that we are unaware of the head and tail of an act done possibly to the best of their attempts and instead brand them and place them in a category. Imagine how unsettling that would become for the vast majority of people who lead double-triple-quadruple lives, trying to please every judgemental freak around them day in and day out, 7 days a week, 365 days a year.
Its not wrong to live to please. Its wrong to stamp someone's forehead just because they are not part of your belief system. Its not wrong to fight to create an image for oneself. Its wrong to shoot such an attempt in the head without having a shred of an idea what he spends his day doing, how he lives every moment.

You are no one, without given authority, to try and gain control on someone.

You are no one, to victimize someone for their lack of similarity, whilst you yourself have achieved very little.

Attempt for some sanity, salvage your relations.